ok where it says "SMTP Server domain" from your first screen shot enter your domain name like maildomain.com for myemailaddress@maildomain.com
for the "mail queue" enter a path on the local server with sufficent drive space.
in the "Connection" tab, under "Conection Controle"
select the "Single Computer" bullet point.
In the Text box below that enter the internal IP address of your mailserver "172.16.0.117" then click the ">>" button to add this IP address to this list.
Leave the rest as it was.
This should help!
thanks