1. The PTR record won't break your MX record. Email servers sending to you would usually not do a reverse DNS lookup first.
2. The ISP hosting your DNS should add the PTR record. Have it match your email server to the right IP. Example would be mail.xxx.com to 1.2.3.4 and test it to make sure it works. Reverse DNS is a prime way of checking for spammers by most ISPs.