MsDtsSrvr.exe should do it.
The next step is to find out exactly where the breakdown is happening. To do this install wireshark (
http://www.wireshark.org/) on your server and your client and watch the ftp traffic. If your ftp client machine is sending out the right messages and the server is not getting them, you have something between the two that is causing the problem (firewall hardware or router hardware, or something else). If your ftp server is getting the right messages and sending back the right messages but they are are not getting to the client, then that tells us where the problem is.
Write back your findings and i can help you further narrow down from there.