Using wireshark to make sure is a different question you can post in the network section.
To use iptables to mark the traffice checkout
http://www.voip-info.org/wiki/view/QoS+Linuxhttp://www.ibiblio.org/pub/Linux/docs/HOWTO/other-formats/html_single/ADSL-Bandwidth-Management-HOWTO.html read classifying ip packet
read this
http://www.voip-info.org/wiki/index.php?page_id=464&tk=99167a4fa50258d7a476&comments_page=1 then go here
http://lartc.org/wondershaper you should be able to mark the traffic.
FYI don't forget to read the links on my comment above.
Good luck.