You should look into Active Sync and not POP/SMTP. POP/SMTP will not let you sync calendar, contacts, etc... POP will only let you access your top level Inbox folder.
for Active Sync you just need to have OWA enabled and working on the Exchange server.
For SSL you need to install the certificate into the website for OWS (inside of IIS) and then also (maybe) install the certificate into the phones (use .crt filetype of certificate to install on phone. Copy .crt file to phone then double click the file from inside the phone and it will install itself).
You need to enable mobile access inside of Exchange System Manager, also make user users are enabled for mobile access (AD users, Exchange tasks/features).